in the U.K., at least –

and that it’s revolutionizing male friendships.

Read Salon article.

This article from Salon reports on a dramatic increase is physical affection among younger straight guys. May that trend continue and spread!

And they are having other series you’ll learn about on their site. Amazing presenters!

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“Manhood Matters”

[see Handy Guide on Events page]

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“Last night when I went to check if dad was sleeping, I noticed that he was wide awake as that afternoon he had become very upset by the uncertainty of his life.  He had never lain awake at night the entire time he had been staying with me.  When I realized that his mind was going round and round I asked him if he would like me to come and lie down with him.  He said that would be nice so I brought my pillow, got into bed beside him, put my arm around him, put his hand into mine gripping it tightly and told him how wonderful he was.  He fell asleep in five minutes and I in six.  What a privilege for me.”

What an example for all of us! Thank you.

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How Men Change: A Thin Time (CD)

We men try not to be “touched” or changed by things.  “Don’t let anything go too deep, neither love nor pain…. Keep cool!” is the message we hear.  Yet we really don’t survive our many kinds of wars.

They now say that the long-term effects of any violent war lasts for four generations as post-traumatic stress in various forms.  This would mean that we are still suffering from the Civil War, the Great War, the Second World War, and the wars every ten years since.  Is it any wonder we have so many neurotic and unhappy people?  Human beings are not meant to kill one another.

Boys are taught to win.  We men can’t admit to anything that can’t be configured as winning.  We have to pretend it’s not true and make another group or individual the loser, which for some strange reason is supposed to make us the winners.  It becomes so clear to me as I grow older that people who change, and keep changing, are the only people who grow up.  And we grow up when we allow events to touch us, influence us, and quite simply move us beyond our fortified home base.

Men don’t change easily.  Men don’t like to change; and because men are actually programmed not to change, but to solidify their opinions and their identities, it often leads to men killing others in one form or another.  In fact, men are rewarded, admired, and elected for not changing! Unfortunately, this feels like most of human history.  Stalin said, “One death is a tragedy.  But when 150,000 people die, it’s a ‘statistic.’”  Too often, we men are able to live in this detached world of statistics instead of inside of our own sacred humanity.