Passing the Torch

As the season shifts into autumn,

and I am entering a new season in my life,

Ziji and I are completing

the passing of the torch

of the leadership of Men In Touch.

My heart is overflowing with gratitude

knowing that he will continue and nurture

the work I began almost 40 years ago

and carry forward our shared vision

of bringing men together

to deeply integrate body, heart and soul

in a space of love

for the well-being of all.

I am confident that he will expand this vision

with great skill, and whole-hearted passion,

and reach more men in new ways

that speak to their current growing edge.

I feel joy and excitement

seeing a new generation

of healers and visionaries

bringing fresh gifts and perspectives.

I remain with you in spirit always

with great love and respect.

Autumn Equinox, 2021

Sequoia

Erotic Temple Retreat

Erotic Temple Retreat: 

an evolutionary leap in queer men’s erotic explorations

by Sequoia

with input from the whole group

shiva-lingam-sunsetImagine that you and a special someone have an inspired idea. You want to deliberately delve deeper than you ever have into authentic, heartful erotic spiritual connection with one another. You have a number of intentional conversations over a couple of months about creating a retreat. You’ll go somewhere away from your usual worldly concerns where you can connect with nature and with each other over many days and nights. You select a place. You talk ahead of time about your hopes, fears, and intentions.  You sketch out a possible daily schedule, which will consist of speaking from your hearts every morning about your innermost thoughts and feelings. Afternoons will be some structured verbal and/or touch exercise you’ve each learned along the way. Evenings you devote to spontaneous erotic explorations guided only by your shared intuition and inspiration. The next morning you  return to speaking from your heart about your new inner reality after what you’d shared the previous day and evening. This goes on for 5 full days. Imagine how you might each feel about your depth of connection with yourself and with one another.

Now imagine instead of just one special someone, you make this journey with nine others. That actually happened this past August [2016]: ten BC Radical Faeries made an evolutionary leap in queer men’s erotic exploration.

I felt a satisfaction beyond sex: beyond fast-food hookups.”

“I felt us becoming more vulnerable, authentic, and open,

which is my definition of love.”

Our group spanned 5 decades, with 2 of us representing each decade from 30s through 70s. We were from Canada, Europe, the Middle East, Africa, and the U.S.

Many of us have been pioneering erotic explorers for many years, with past experience in Faerie Sex Magick, Body Electric, Men In Touch, Tantra and other eros-spirit events and practices. At various of those events, some of us have been participants, assistants and/or facilitators. Now we wanted to build on the best parts of all of our previous explorations to take us to new levels of eros-spirit conscious intimacy.

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We called the event Erotic Temple Retreat. It consisted of 4 preliminary meetings in Vancouver, then a 5-night, 4 full day encampment in a semi-rural setting a couple of hours outside Vancouver.

The vision began with three of us, who saw the power of an extended event that combined intentional erotic contact with regular heart circles to learn from one another’s experiences. An invitation was sent to about 40 local faeries, whom the Core Three felt may have sufficient prior experience to make this leap a real possibility. Fourteen faes came to the first meeting. The Core Three knew the land could only accommodate 10, and assumed some would drop out as they learned more about the plans and decided it wasn’t for them. However by meeting #3, when all 14 were still on board, we had to do a process of asking each of the 11 non-core faeries to deeply deliberate whether he might consider dropping out to bring our number down to 10. As if by magic in the next week, for various personal reasons, 4 did bow out, leaving the perfect number 10 to participate in the full rural experience.

I am prone to being a people pleaser

so I have struggled to be present in way I have not been in the past. “

The Outer Form

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We all came together on a Thursday evening in August, 2016, on an acre of land which is the retirement home for one of us and his partner. They have created an enchanted home and sanctuary, which has been a beautiful venue for faerie “gatherettes” and sweat lodges over many years. In idyllic summer weather, many of us tented while some shared the house. We all took turns in meal preparation and clean up, with one of us serving as the Kitchen Queen coordinating the rest who signed up for prep/clean-up.  During our preliminary meetings in town we had agreed we would not use any mind-altering substances during our time together.

The structure was deceptively simple. On each of the 4 full days our schedule was much the same:

  • 8-9:30 breakfast and cleanup
  • 9:30 to 11:30 [and beyond] Heart Circletumblr_ny9alna5kk1rou562o1_500
  • After Heart Circle:
    • Friday, 12:20-1300 – Guided visualization
  • 12:30-2 Lunch prep, clean-up
  • 2-3 free time
  • 3-5 Guided erotic interaction:
    • Friday: Nude Partner Yoga
    • Sat: Ask For What You Want exercise with 4 different partners
    • Sun: erotic massage with 4 random partners
    • Mon: guided hike through a wooded park to a beautiful cove
  • 6-7:30 dinner and clean-up
  • 8-ish to 1030-ish “Erotic Temple”, except Saturday: “Moving Authentically” [see below for descriptions].

Tuesday morning after breakfast was a final closing Heart Circle, then departure.

“‘Asking for what you want’ was the most baffling part of the retreat for me

and yet it eventually made lots of sense.”

The evenings were the primary time for less structured erotic explorations:

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  • “Moving Authentically” was a blind-folded group movement to music. Two of us had created a 90-minute playlist of music conducive to improvisational movement. While 2 or 3 of us took turns serving as sighted “angels” to protect the blind-folded ones from bumping into possibly har
    mful objects, the blindfolded faes were invited to move spontaneously. If they encountered other participants they could choose to share touch or not, as their mood and impulse dictated. Clothing could be removed as desired during the process; angels would pick up discarded apparel. Many commented afterwards that the removal of sight also removed a certain level of the judging mind resulting in greater openness to being with whomever we encountered.
  • “Erotic Temple” was less structured. The minimal structure we had was inspired by a workshop one of us had taken in Europe earlier in the year. In one room, each of us created a “home” space for ourselves on the edge of the room, designated by a mat or blanket. That was our “personal space” to have solitude when we wished, and to witness others’ interactions. Also we could use our personal space to entertain one other person by mutual invitation/consent. The middle of the room had two group spaces: one for movement [solo or with others], and the other for group erotic contact. Three of us had created 120-minute playlists of music conducive to erotic energy. The one who suggested the format also set the tone each evening by offering a guided process to clarify and express our intentions verbally. What went on in all of these spaces unfolded organically as we each witnessed and at times connected with one another in a variety of sensual and erotic/sexual ways.
    • The Friday evening “Erotic Temple” was more tentative, cuddly, sensual, and not yet fully, genitally sexual.
    • Saturday evening’s “Authentic Movement” was mildly erotic and playful, and was followed by some mostly non-sexual cuddling.
    • By Sunday evening the energy among us had built and opened to the point the more genital focus occurred, including some stroking, sucking, and cumming. On a sexual level, Sunday was the “climax” energetically.
    • The Monday evening “Erotic Temple” was shorter, after our hike and dinner in town. The energy was overall more subdued and playful, and did include a bit of flogging and erotic dance.

Witnessing another fae’s ‘sexual generosity’ was a powerful learning for me. I now see that it is possible to give to others through my physical/erotic contact, rather than be thinking only about my own pleasure and satisfaction.”

Our Inner Experiences

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The above description is the outer form. What we each experienced was rich and varied, sometimes pleasurable, and often challenging in some way. Our heart circles each morning gave us space to verbalize as well as we could all of our challenges, ecstasies, and everything in between. It felt like each day we shed another layer of our outer selves and discovered and revealed to one another our progressively more inner selves.

“I came through feeling loved and appreciated

despite how I was feeling about myself (and others) at times.”

We did not record the heart circles. Instead, having decided to write about our collective experience, we sent out an email form inviting each participant’s reflections.

Here is a representative sample of their responses:

[see Appendix below for their verbatim responses.]

  • It included everything that I would put in the erotic realm: heart circles, consensus, consent, chanting, dancing, music, massage, eating meals together, ritual.
  • The evening Erotic Temples were unstructured. This did cause me some initial anxiety and discomfort AND I’ve learned in life, I’m still safe and can just move into the experience and see what I learn. In the end, they were amazing and fun experience. [Many expressed this in varying ways]
  • The morning Heart Circles were a high point for many of us. The sharing seemed to deepen each day. Mostly we shared about our experiences with erotic energy the previous day/evening, and how that felt.
  • “I like bringing eros into existing faerie friendships.  I certainly feel like I’m closer than I’ve ever been to the community of lovers I envision for myself and my community. I’m feeling quite open to the boundaries between sex partners and intimate friends being less formidable and more fluid. “
  • Several of us felt the schedule was too full: not enough unstructured “downtime.”
  • “I learned so much about myself. I learned how much fear I continue to live around sexual encounters, especially group encounters. I see how shaped I am by my past wounds.”
  • Values we shared:
    • Support, honesty, authenticity, sincerity and commitment, intentionality, openness, vulnerability, acceptance [of self and one another] aka compassion, generosity.
    • There was deep commitment to the “process,” and trust in the circle.  
    • A shared belief that the erotic and the spiritual can be merged and explored together.
    • We spoke from our hearts and were gentle with each other.

Conclusion

All 10 of us came away feeling like we’d made a leap into a new dimension of erotic/spiritual intimacy with ourselves and other fae men. Many of us are open, and even eager to do this again. We hope others will take this model, build on it, and continue our evolution as queer erotic pioneers.

ReikiChakras“It feels like my erotic charge has migrated from my groin

to my Heart Chakra and Crown, and I really like this shift.

I used to desire to get something [to be turned-on, and get off];

now the desire is to share my fullness, to overflow, to commune.”

“I certainly feel like I’m closer than I’ve ever been

to the community of lovers I envision for myself and my community. “

Sequoia  has grown along with the Radical Faeries since the very first Gathering in Benson, AZ in 1979, where he took what may have been the first faerie name.  He is grateful and  inspired to have been part of this most recent experiment in faerie sex/spirit consciousness.

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Appendix

For those who want more details, what follows is almost verbatim what faes wrote

[lightly edited for brevity, clarity, and anonymity]:

Survey questions:

Your Erotic Temple Reflections

Please take a few minutes to reflect on your experiences.

Your comments will serve several purposes:

  • A tool for self-reflection
  • A written Heart Circle to share with one another. Let’s agree to continue our Confidentiality
  • Information for the organizers for future reference
  • Material for an article for RFD or elsewhere so others can learn from our pioneering experiment. Sequoia and any other authors of articles will keep all our names Confidential to the public by making them anonymous or under a pseudonym.

What about this Erotic Temple Retreat did you . . .

  -enjoy most? Why?

  -like least? Why?

  -find most informative or growthful?

What was the main thing you’ve learned?

How do you intend your life to be different after this Erotic Temple Retreat?

How would you like the Erotic Temple Retreat to be different?

What Values did we bring to Erotic Temple Retreat which contributed to its success?

What Decision [personal or collective] contributed to its success?

The full verbatim responses:

What about this event did you enjoy most? Why?

  • the companionship of the group, the togetherness, the openness, the communicativeness especially in the heart circles.
  • meeting at the end, number 5 a week afterwards, was important too.
  • I suppose the common thread is …the cultivating and nurturing of friendships.
  • Heart Circle. A small group allowed for multiple shares. Being an active listener gave me some new insights and tools that I have now begun implementing in my daily life. During my shares, I felt that I was heard and my thoughts acknowledged. I also found myself answering my own questions or concerns. Sharing and listening seemed to create trust amongst us, allowing us all to speak ‘from the heart.’ It’s a great way to bring about positive change.
  • Dance! Movement was a great way for me to connect to my body and emotions.
  • That I found myself vulnerable. I asked for it and I experienced it. I loved the heart circles. I felt engaged in a way that has felt lacking in the other heart circles I have been doing lately.
  • The challenge of creating sacred erotic space as a community. I liked the challenge because it is one of my passions, which is learning about how to create group erotic spaces. But about the event itself, what I enjoyed the most was the depth of heart circle space we created…I hadn’t quite realized the power of mixing heart circle with erotic space.
  • The best aspect of the gathering I feel is the many opportunities for erotic touch, available not only through the guided exercises during the days, the Moving Authentically blindfolded naked dancing, and the erotic massage exchange on the Sunday afternoon but also and specifically during the four evenings in the Erotic Temple where I was able to dance and touch and cuddle and have intimate significant moments with almost everyone at our gathering. The Erotic Temple is the perfect place – with its layout, its music, and its agreed upon boundaries – for us faeries to enter into sacred space with our brethren and become the circle of holy transgressors. Four nights of erotic joy and bliss in the temple is exactly what was missing from the Sex Magick workshops I attended where four of the five days were usually spent in heart circles to even arrive at  sacred erotic space.
  • I really enjoyed just being away with a group of men with whom I had some sense of familiarity if not intimacy and felt that intimacy deepened.
  • I especially loved being able to spend 1:1 time with attendees, and wished we had more of that, e.g. during the random pairings playing with the Circle of Consent, and during the 1:1 erotic massage.
  • I enjoyed feeling very relaxed with everyone primarily because we had those 4 meetings and group activities in the city I felt 10 was also a good size.
  • I felt a satisfaction beyond sex: beyond fast-food hookups.
  • I really enjoyed our Heart Circles! At monthly Heart Circles and at faerie camp, I often am bored or annoyed by people’s long-winded, un-heartful sharings. At Erotic Temple I mostly found our sharings deeply engaging and often moving, because it was about what we were doing with one another in real time. I felt us becoming more vulnerable, authentic, and open, which is my definition of love.

What did you like least? Why?

  • sometimes the heart circles can get pretty long
  • The first evening I had butterflies like I was going on a first date.
  • I least liked the personal inner challenges I was confronted with on a daily basis because they were so uncomfortable, but that’s one of the main reasons I went on the retreat, so in the end I really did enjoy them.
  • I really hate feeling “messy”.  I generally want to present as having my shit together and don’t enjoy it when my shit is out there for everyone to see.
  • I had a lot of physical, intellectual and spiritual stimulation every day. With that, I found I was depleted by the fourth erotic gathering. It took me a while to find momentum. I did notice others in the group also losing focus and drifting away. I do feel that everyone benefits if all are focused on participating or supporting the erotic energy. For me, three erotic gatherings would be perfect.
  • I had a lot of physical, intellectual and spiritual stimulation every day. With that, I found I was depleted by the fourth erotic gathering. It took me a while to find momentum. I did notice others in the group also losing focus and drifting away. I do feel that everyone benefits if all are focused on participating or supporting the erotic energy. For me, three erotic gatherings would be perfect.
  • I felt a bit over scheduled. I could have used more unstructured time.
  • The lack of clarity around boundaries of the Erotic Temple evenings. We never actually discussed our group boundaries especially regarding speech.
  • We broke the energetic crucible by going out into the world [on Monday] and the group was not cohesive or tight [afterwards]
  • I still might have liked to have done more 1:1 activities, like an added inner/outer circle so we spend a little time with everyone in the group.
  • I had angst about the evenings: I didn’t know what to do. Wearing a blindfold was kind of a cop-out because I didn’t have to pick anyone.
  • I found the evening unstructured Erotic Temple time the most challenging. After decades of 1-to-1 erotic intimacy with lovers and clients, I found myself unsure how to navigate being in erotic space with 9 of you at the same time. I appreciate the challenge, and look forward to more opportunities to learn this skill.
  • What did you find most informative or growthful?
  • examining my feelings, emotions and behaviours with and about men, sexually or otherwise.
  • The blindfolded dance was a big reminder for me about the beauty of individual energies that we all hold within us.  I can so easily dismiss this aspect of a man because there might be something I deem unattractive on the outside appearance. And with that knowledge, experiencing the joy that can be shared when the entirety of the person is taken into view.  
  • Using Heart Circles to prepare ourselves prior to arrival created an environment of trust and caring. I found myself very relaxed and peaceful with everyone. There were times when I felt very present, just being in the moment. It was quite blissful to let go of thoughts and concerns, allowing things unfold as they would. A powerful place, just being.  
  • I experienced some conflict with [two of the others]. I find these experiences a bit frightening as I avoid conflict at almost any cost. However, I feel like these conflicts were addressed with honesty and directness.
  • I am prone to being a people pleaser so I have struggled to be present in way I have not been in the past.
  • I am comforted with the metaphor of the jagged rocks being smoothed by the stream knocking them together. I find this metaphor relevant when attempting to deepen community.
  • Being one of the main coordinators of the overall event proved to be very challenging, and it has been a long (and still ongoing) process of working with those challenges. It has been an interesting process of letting the emotions teach me about how to make this event better in the future.
  • The exercise on “Asking for what you want” was the most baffling part of the retreat for me and yet it eventually made lots of sense. It allowed me to step back from the ways I get what I want and desire and take a good look at the dynamic and how good communication can help to make it better. If I were still a young gay faerie learning about being gay and navigating my way in erotic and sexual situations, I would have treasured such work to help guide me on my journey.
  • I really appreciated the experience of going away with loved ones with the intention of deepening our relationships.  I enjoyed the container we created and maintained together in which to be vulnerable and receptive.  … I like to think that we are continually deepening our wholeheartedness, going deeper and deeper into vulnerability and self-acceptance.  …  I feel like I was held in a safe environment … I came through feeling loved and appreciated despite how I was feeling about myself (and others) at times.
  • I do actually feel that something fell away through the event.  I can’t say I’ve “learned” anything that sounds way too “heady”.  But I broke through to something new.  I come away feeling affirmed and requited in my affections for several men in my life.
  • The teaching of and our practicing the Circle of Consent, esp asking someone, “How would you like to connect with me, for YOUR pleasure.” It was a great way to connect more deeply with each person I did this with. I’m sorry we could not have done this with each participant.
  • It had also been a long time since I did any erotic massage exchanges. It was a good reminder about how much I love, how good I am at erotic touch, and how powerful erotic touch is in this realm.
  • I found the entire experience a mirror to see more clearly who I am now as a sexual/spiritual being.
  • I learned I am way less interested in genital sex than when I was younger, and much more interested in other aspects of intimacy, especially quiet holding, breathing together, tender caresses, and soulful gazing. It feels like my erotic charge has migrated from my groin to my Heart Chakra and Crown, and I really like this shift. I used to desire to get something [to be turned-on, and get off]; now the desire is to share my fullness, to overflow, to commune.

What was the main thing you’ve learned?

  • to be more open in a faerie environment, to take off my muggle mask and thus reveal and experience new sides in my personality as unrestrictive by the day-to-day world.
  • that getting close with other guys seems to have sublimated my desire for sex throughout the gathering.
  • I realized that despite believing that I can drop into vulnerability with ease, the reality is that I still have a lot of hesitation and fear stemming from a fear of rejection.  With that I relearned how powerful it is to walk through that trepidation.
  • At the start of the evening ‘erotic gatherings,’ [we were] asked us to focus on our intention, then to narrow the intention down to a feeling, image, symbol…etc.  In doing so, I was able to take a broad intention and focus it down to something tangible that I could easily implement. I found this a very powerful way to put an intention into immediate action.
  • It has also been a humbling process to see myself struggling in this way. Since I mostly live and work in a singular fashion, it is a challenge to  compromise and accommodate in a group. Part of it is learning to let go of control. …I’m finding my ability to access ecstatic states is getting much easier, simply through breath and meditation.
  • It’s sobering to see how much we are conditioned to pursue sex and diminish the pursuit of eroticism as an equally valid goal. Watching myself and the others in the temple and listening to the thoughts and feelings in the heart circles the next morning, it is sobering to see how our experience – both in our wounding from negative experiences and our confidence from positive experiences – makes us apprehensive and hesitant and awkward in seeking out ways to touch ourselves erotically in the company of others or to know what to do to arouse and please ourselves and others when the occasion is there for us. I yearned for openness and risk taking and still found myself undermined by my thinking and my feelings of past fears, guilt and shame, and how I had to consciously set that aside and let myself flow into the moment, into heartspace and intimacy beyond the borders of my conditioning – into a transgressive joyful experience.
  • I do actually feel that something fell away through the event.  I can’t say I’ve “learned” anything that sounds way too “heady”.  But I broke through to something new.  I certainly feel like I’m closer than I’ve ever been to the community of lovers I envision for myself and my community.  I come away feeling affirmed and requited in my affections for several men in my life.
  • That all male space is very important and valuable in our world, where we can celebrate cocks and cum and erotic energy. Interestingly, I’m not sure I could have participated in the weekend if there had been a trans-man or women present.
  • Reminded myself over and over through interactions and exercises to stay in my body and let go of neediness
  • Witnessing another fae’s “sexual generosity” was a powerful learning for me. I now see that it is possible to give to others through my physical/erotic contact, rather than be thinking only about my own pleasure and satisfaction.

How do you intend your life to be different after this Erotic Temple?

  • hopefully a bit more reflective, open and communicative about what it is i want and need.
  • appreciating faerie space more than before as this was my first faerie experience on my own, without my partner.
  • I find that I’ve recently become more generous with touch, and more willing to take risks with it.  
  • To invite more simplicity and intention into my thought and actions. To allow more being and less doing into my life.  Even more touch !
  • I find the whole experience has appropriately knocked my ego down a couple of notches. I am so often a facilitator of faerie events and often have an attitude of “paying it forward.”  However, this often makes me the detached observer who remains safe from pain and growth. I want to be less detached.
  • I will definitely increase and enrich the value of my erotic and sexual journey with my partner. I will once again focus on a more conscious daily practice of tai chi and dance and music, which I too often set aside from the daily grind of habitual activities.
  • I will actively try to plan and make more space in this busy life to offer and experience erotic massage
  • I want to be more expansive erotically and also use various techniques like movement, dance as a compliment
  • I intend to participate in more group erotic spaces to become more comfortable being with many people, and to practice “sexual generosity”

How would you like the Erotic Temple to be different?

  • A little more down time [several of us said this]
  • I actually felt there was lots of “free time,” “alone time,” and “group time.”  What I did not manage to make happen for myself was “unstructured time one on one.”  I would have like more time one on one with individuals that wasn’t part of a workshop.  I didn’t manage to make that happen.
  • I really enjoy the experience of touch and closeness, sexual or otherwise, so more activities geared towards that would be great.
  • I found having a ritual to get us in the right headspace for the evening Erotic Temple was good when we did it (i.e. the blindfolded dance).  I would like to have practiced  a loving kindness meditation as a group before every temple experience.  I think it could aid in the transition into a loving, sensual experience in a  more organic this way.
  • I think the concept of the Temple itself is very powerful worked very well. I think it would be a good idea to designate a facilitator for the [evening Erotic] Temple to open it, close it, and keep an eye on the energy. It could be like the heart circle facilitator in so much as it is rotated and the “power” used very sparingly.  [In] the Erotic Temple [evenings], I would have preferred to see a bit more structured interaction like the inner outer circle and massage. More events where each combinations of pairs of people experience it. I recognize that we had some of these events and I opted out for rest or napping. To my preference, that would mean more time on this and somewhat less [unstructured] temple time. It was too much for me to have heart circle, afternoon event and the evening Temple.
  • I think it could be a day longer. Perhaps rotate the “hosting” of the [evening] Erotic Temple between different people, and perhaps people can create slightly different flavours of erotic space through different boundaries (e.g. you have to explore each of the 3 spaces, you have to spend some time witnessing, spend some time with someone you feel challenged by, you have to carry a dildo around with you wherever you go! etc)
  • I liked it the way it was set up. I would like more opportunities to experience the Erotic Temple and have more space, more time and different participants to make it even richer. I would like to be pushed even further in a transgressive way. The flogging (and the use of dildos) to be successful and meaningful requires more space and perhaps some discussion and training beforehand. To transgress the almost inevitable vanilla aspects usually present in eroticism and sex, we need more time for discussion and modelling; I feel there is a place for kink in the erotic temple that still needs to be explored.
  • I would like more circles before the gathering itself.  I felt we spent a disproportionate amount of time planning the event vs doing exercises to increase intimacy and heart sharing.  I feel the vessel would be safer with more sharing before the event.  the “Erotic Temple” itself could have a little more ritual and structure (not much).  We had some excellent reflection around intention as we began each Erotic Temple session, but we could have been clearer about ending the sessions and reflecting on how we had done with our intentions.  I think we could also spend a little more time around building consensus around the nature of “ritual space” and how to maintain ritual space for one another without “calling each other out.” I actually feel that “calling out” is antithetical to creating ritual space.  I feel the stronger path is to spend more time working with each other to build ritual space.  Our goal is to be open to each other whatever we bring to the circle.  
  • I might have not done Moving Authentically one of the nights and done Erotic Temple all 4 nights. The last ET on Monday, after dinner, felt like an afterthought – it was hard to get into it.
  • I felt that I would have enjoyed more structure around the Erotic Temple evenings.
  • My stomach was a little sensitive because I am not used to a rich diet with a lot of sauces, salsas, pizza toppings  Maybe a more simple alternative diet.
  • More structure during evening. I felt the first evening had more of a flow to it and a build up. By the end it seemed there was more of a wanting to focus directly on someone sexually and forget about the primary and secondary stages.
  • Given that our Heart Circles did take up our whole mornings, I would not schedule anything else before lunch. Instead I would prefer structured erotic events mid-afternoons, 3-5.
  • I’d prefer more structured evening sessions, and fewer of the unstructured evenings like we had. For example, the evening of our first full day might be Authentic Movement or Puja [inner/outer circle], then the second could be an open Erotic Temple, the third could be Wheel of Consent [Ask for What You Want] and the 4th another open Erotic Temple.
  • I’d like our afternoon sessions to be more instructive. I’d like to learn more about flogging/spanking, and prostate pleasure for example. Sharing our various intimacy skills in the afternoons would expand our repertoire in the open evenings.
  • Breaking the container on the 4th day by going outside seemed to have weakened the experience for that night. [Several said that.]
  • If we go on a hike the 4th day, I prefer to leave earlier, and eat back at the land, to preserve the ritual container, and give us time for a full evening of Erotic Temple.
  • I like the rotation of Heart Circle focalizing, and the wake-up embodiment exercises at the beginning. I suggest we make both a regular feature each morning.
  • To make dinner prep easier, 5 of us to volunteer to bring an entree to cover all 5 dinners [some could be brought frozen]. These could be augmented with fresh salads prepared on site.
  • In future, I would suggest a clearer set of criteria for participation and thereby clarify what is expected and whether the retreat is right for those who we have invited. That way we might avoid the uncertainty in those who dropped out and help them work through their issues. I might also urge partners to consider coming alone to such a gathering; it is easy to talk about being present as an individual but harder to make that happen.
  • I really loved the couple energy!
  • I’d like to do more planning ahead of time.

What Values did we bring to Erotic Temple which contributed to its success?

  • openness, communicativeness, that faerie spirit or camaraderie.
  • Everyone was so on board the whole time, the general enthusiasm to participate in all the rituals and exercises – and even meals and clean-up – definitely helped make the ET a success.  Also, the openness to letting the experience unfold as it would and a willingness to adapt and change when necessary are important factors as well.
  • Trust in each other.
  • Support for each other.
  • Accepting yourself and those around you
  • Nudity! I always find it a simple way to bond with another.
  • Being present and receptive.
  • Using Heart Circle to acknowledge and share our experiences.
  • I perceived every person who attended to be fully available to be touched. I find this amazing, beautiful and rare.
  • Community oriented, honesty in heart circle, authenticity in the ET.
  • There was honesty and sincerity and commitment, a desire to be open and willing to fully participate in making the whole retreat and the erotic temple work. Most of us brought consideration for others into the interactions and most of us fulfilled our commitments to volunteer and help out.
  • There was deep commitment to the “process,” and trust in the circle.  
  • A shared belief that the erotic and the spiritual can be merged and explored together.
  • Common goal to share and create erotic space together – I felt most folks were actively participating in this.
  • Some sense of equality – there was no one main leader – all voices might have a say aka “Deep democracy.” We did make many decisions as a group, eg doing Moving Authentically one night instead of Erotic temple.
  • We spoke from our hearts and were gentle with each other.
  • intentionality, openness, authenticity, vulnerability
  • acceptance [of self and one another] aka compassion
  • generosity

What Decisions [personal or collective] contributed to its success?

  • the planning, the organization and the hosting. being more in tune with my inner self.
  • our dedication to the temple and the daily rituals, and our willingness to be vulnerable with one another aided in the success.   
  • Personally, I found taking a break from ego liberating. It allowed me to be more receptive and feel more connected. I also found being an active listener very rewarding.
  • I find our community to be very committed to doing this kind of work. We are open to the concept and willing to experiment and tweak our experiments.
  • An intention and commitment to be in the ET evenings in whatever way felt authentic. Rotating the facilitator position helped keep things fresh.
  • I committed myself to really making this work – having been part of the BC Sex Magick workshops – and wanting to transcend the limitations of the Sex Magick model. Most everyone shared that vision and goal and worked hard to make it happen. I am so proud of our collective work in planning, organizing and executing the four meetings and the actual retreat. It is always exciting to see a vision made manifest.
  • To participate as deeply as I could in all parts of the event.  
  • The process of having 4 meetings ahead of time to get to know the other participants, their boundaries and skills and tease out our vision for the retreat. Drawing on participants offers of skills/talents was special for me. I like to learn from others and see how they facilitate erotic energy
  • Setting an intention each day, being honest with our feelings and boundaries, smiling and making eye contact, eating together, sharing stories, being authentic in our queerness.
  • Personal decisions:
    • to sleep in my tent, which gave me a sense of psychic space from the group: a time for deep solitude, which feeds my soul;
    • to NOT care take others during the evening sessions, and instead to deeply follow my own muse and pleasure.
  • Collective decisions:
    • to have 4 preliminary meetings in town before our encampment
    • to limit our numbers to 10, which seemed like the perfect number for the space;
    • to allow morning Heart Circles to go as long as necessary for each of us to fully speak his heart
    • to have 3 distinct “spaces” during evening Erotic Temple [all on one room where we witness one another]: personal space, group movement space, and group intimacy space. Nothing was hidden; we could all learn by observing one another.

Would you be inclined to . . .

  • recommend Erotic Temple to friends? Yes=6; No=0
  • participate again in the future? Yes=6; No=0; 1 said “Yes, but I am done for a while,” and 1 said “unsure.”

Additional comments:

  • I came back to this question for myself: Why am I doing this work? My answer is: I am interested in deepening my connection with my community. I find the magic of the heart circle really works when we are engaged in something that matters. Erotic connection matters a lot to me and engaging with it makes me vulnerable and lets me access and share my inner world. I am humbled by this experience. I found it surprisingly more difficult than I expected.
  • As I processed the experience of our Faerie Erotic Temple  over the last few days, I was very sad that it was already over and that the time had gone so fast. I wanted more; as I said in the heart circles, I am still hungry for more.  I loved the word “Transgressive” and forced you all to use it in talking about the “Circle of Transgression”, loving the concept and realizing at the same time that not all of you would see it or love it in the same way. I had so many moments when I wanted more, especially in the last day when I wanted more erotic play with flogging, with dildoes, and with kink activities. The combination of movement – both with dancing in the dance space and with Authentic Movement  – and erotic touch really works for me, and I would like more of that within the next occasion.  I so loved … sharing four days and five nights with you in such wonderful heart space and play and talk and touch. I want more of that. I hope you will all take further interest in such gatherings and help make that happen.

Men In Touch Young Adults Day Workshop

YOUNG ADULTS WORKSHOP!

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This will be a one day event of touch and erotic exploration, facilitated by Ziji.

Morning: introductions, movement, partner yoga
Afternoons: exploring intimacy through touch and eroticism
Evening: lovingly-kindness contemplation and touch ritual

WHO: We welcome queer/gay/bi/trans men  of all races, and sexual orientations between 18-35 years old. At times, erotic touch and nudity will be present in this space with everyone invited and encouraged to participate to their comfort level.

WHERE: in a private space located near Knight/Kingsway/King Edward close to transit (19, 22, 25 busses). Free car and bike parking.

WHEN: Saturday, August 20th, 2016: 10:30 am -7 pm

Your Guides and Hosts:
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Ziji
 [bio here]

 

 

 

REGISTRATION:

Early Registration Deadline August 17th: $85 regular, $45 concession
Later Registration: $100 regular, $60 concession
Refunds are available up to August 18th, less $25 service charge.

Space is limited to 11 participants.

We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, partial scholarships are available.

Contact Info:

  • 604-446-1262 [Ziji]
  • ziji.massage[at]gmail.com

Payments:

  • Visa/MC: email Ziji to receive PayPal payment information
  • Cash: if you live in Vancouver, and want to drop off payment, call or email to make an appointment.

“Touch is the language of the heart.”

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Summer Retreat on BC’s Beautiful Bowen Island

Bowen-Vancouver

Join Sequoia and Ziji
for a relaxing, nourishing summer retreat to connect with ourselves, with one another, and with Nature at her most magnificent.

July 15-18, 2016

We will again convene at a beautiful, luxurious Guest House a 15-minute walk from the Snug Cove ferry landing [see website] where we can accommodate 9 to 12 men. Leave your car at home! Bowen is only 90 minutes from Vancouver by bus and ferry.

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We’ll have the Guest House from Friday evening through Monday morning. A breakfast buffet is included Sat/Sun/Mon. For lunches and dinners, we’ll enjoy many dining options in the charming Snug Cove Village. There is also a kitchenette with fridge and microwave, if you wish to bring some of your own food.

You can arrive as early as 3 on Friday. We’ll convene Friday evening after dinner, at 8, to get acquainted sharing TLC.

Saturday and Sunday mornings we’ll share nude yoga, meditation, and sensual touch.

Both afternoons will include optional guided massage in the Lodge OR free time to explore the hiking trails, kayaking, and lazing on the beach.

Saturday and Sunday evenings after dinner we’ll share rituals of Sacred Erotic Touch.

Monday our closing circle will be after breakfast. We’ll depart the Lodge by 11, and can leave luggage there to enjoy another leisurely day exploring Bowen’s delights. Ferries depart every hour.

Cost for 3 nights accommodations, 3 breakfasts,  and workshop:
  • Share twin room = $Cdn645 / $US525
  • Private Double or Queen bed: add $Cdn150 / $US120
  • Need to leave Sunday evening? deduct $Cdn100 / $US80
Note: We need to give the venue our final count of participants by June 15.
  • We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, please contact us to discuss your situation.
  • Payment options are below.
  • All payments are non-refundable , unless someone fills your vacancy.

Interested? Maybe? Not sure?

Please let us know immediately. Registration closes June 15, as the venue needs to know our final numbers a month beforehand.

Please say:

  • Yes! I’m ready to register, and I prefer so pay by [see options below]
  • I prefer a [twin or private?] room.
  • I prefer to stay [2 or 3?] nights.
  • I am interested, and won’t be able to commit until [date].
Also, please tell us if you have specific requests about how we structure the retreat content [massage (instruction or self-directed), yoga, relationship communications skills, learning/practicing Tantra, other (please specify).]  We’d like to make this retreat what you want!

Contact Sequoia and Ziji:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]
 WHO: We welcome men of all ages, races, and sexual orientations who are willing to be naked and exchange sensual full-body touch including genitals. We will not be sharing any kind of penetrative sex. We will connect with each other by engaging in conscious touch that is intentional and real, moving beyond predetermined roles and habits, and learning ways to amplify pleasure.

See Event Photos page to get a better idea what we’ll be doing.

Your Guides and Hosts:

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]
Navid
Ziji [bio here]
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We’ll be joined by Guest Yoga Instructor, Brett Wearne, a physiotherapist for 24 years and Yoga teacher of nearly 20 years. Brett will be offering some gentle morning Yoga on Saturday and Sunday.

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Brett

“We’ll be exploring some relaxed belly breathing,

pelvic floor strengthening, and

spinal movements all of which

help to move energy in the body and

effectively move erotic energy up the spine.  

Suitable for all levels of experience.”

 

 

 

 

 

Payments:

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • PayPal: send payment to www.paypal.me/GrowingHealthier
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to
    • Growing Healthier, 3792 Lanark Street, Vancouver BC V5N 3R7
    • [Please call or email us to indicate that you’ve mailed a cheque. We’ll reserve your place beginning then. Please include your email address and best phone number.]
  • Cash: if you are in the West End or near our address above, and want to drop off payment, call or email to make appointment.
 Past years' events are chronicled below for reference.

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Valentine’s Day Retreat: Getting Your Heart-On

Is it possible to live in love? Not just with a special someone, but with life itself in all its many forms? With everyone? If so, where does sexuality fit in?

 

There are many practices which channel sexual energy upwards to our heart centre. The more our hearts open to this juicey life force, the more we discover that the source of love lies within ourselves, not outside.

Join us for an afternoon exploring what lies beyond the ideas of romantic love so prevalent in media. We’ll use a variety of easy to learn practices drawn from several traditions, including easy movement and breathing, conscious sensual/erotic touch, imagery and guided meditation. 

You will discover your own love muscle!

It’s a gentle workshop, no previous experience necessary, the perfect introduction to the Men In Touch program, and a great refresher for experienced men.

“Love is the greatest intoxicant, the ultimate drug. If one starts drinking out of love, then nothing else is needed, then it satisfies the deepest longing in our heart.”            ~Osho, Tantric Teacher

Your Guides and Hosts: Sequoia and Ziji both have many years of experience using these practices to live in love. We’d love to share them with you!

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]
Navid
Ziji [bio here]

 

 

 

 

 

 

When: Sunday, February 14th, 2016, noon to 5 PM (doors open 11:30; please arrive before 12:00 so we can start on time!)

Where: Vancouver, 1 block from the Broadway/Cambie Canada Line station.

See MAP.  Ample free parking.

Cost: $75 until Sunday, Feb 7th, $95 thereafter. Concession: $50.

Payments: Pre-registration is Required

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to
    • Growing Healthier, 3792 Lanark Street, Vancouver BC V5N 3R7 [Please call or email us to indicate that you’ve mailed a cheque. We’ll reserve your place beginning then. Please include your email address and best phone number.]
  • We’ll email the venue address and other details as soon as we receive your registration.

Info:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]

 

Men In Touch: Evening Workshop, Jan. 18th

An evening of men sharing loving touch!

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“…the workshop generated a sense of safety and belonging, a perfect environment for men to explore emotional and physical intimacy. I discovered how powerful male erotic energy can be…Very powerful, very liberating, very healing. A tremendous experience!  Thank you again Sequioa and Ziji for creating such a nurturing, well executed and deeply fulfilling program.”               ~ Chris

The evening will start clothed with a light physical warm up and meditation, followed by touch exercises leading to a beautiful undressing ritual bringing the group lovingly into being as naked or clothed as each man prefers: no pressure! The rest of the evening will be guided touch exchanges with several different men, in which your stated boundaries will be totally honored. This evening is all about caring and respectful touch

It’s a gentle workshop, no previous experience necessary, the perfect introduction to the Men In Touch program, and a great refresher for experienced men.

“I am so glad I decided to attend this event as it has taught me a lot and I feel energized and very content with myself.”                                   ~ Robert

When: Monday, Jan 18th, 2016, 19:00 – 21:30 (doors open 18:30; please arrive before 19:00 so we can start on time!)

Where: Vancouver, 1 block from the Broadway/Cambie Canada Line station.

See MAP.  Ample free parking.

Cost: $20 until Saturday, Jan 16, $30 thereafter.

Payments: Pre-registration is Required

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to
    • Growing Healthier, 3792 Lanark Street, Vancouver BC V5N 3R7
    • [Please call or email us to indicate that you’ve mailed a cheque. We’ll reserve your place beginning then. Please include your email address and best phone number.]
  • We’ll email the venue address and other details as soon as we receive your registration.

Info:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]

Please arrive freshly showered if possible, and free from the influence of alcohol or other substances. Please do not wear any colognes or scent as some men are allergic. 

A Taste of Tantra Feb. 5-7, 2016 Vancouver

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“Tantra says, if sex is so vital that life comes out of it, then there must be something more to it. That something more is the key towards divinity.” 

~ Neo-Tantra, Bernard Gunther

WHAT: We are all erotic beings. The Tantric tradition affirms that erotic energy is an embodiment of the creative principle of the universe. It is this energy that makes us truly alive and vibrant. This weekend is for men to come together to learn how to turn intimate touch into a whole-body integrated experience and to develop confidence in creating the kind of sexual experiences we want with our partners.

  • Join us for a weekend of conscious explorations using a combination of movement, breathing exercises, intentional speaking, and sensuous touch to discover more of who you really are as an erotic being. The rich tradition of Tantra offers numerous paths to awaken and arouse our sacred erotic energy, which often remains dormant and undiscovered. The experiential explorations we will do together offer the potential to awaken to a profoundly open heart, clear mind, and embodied presence.
  • We will use a diverse sampling of different practices – including partner yoga, loving-kindness meditation, vocalization, erotic touch, sharing circles and structured play – to progressively explore deeper levels of interaction and intimacy with each other, challenging ourselves to open to others in an authentic way. We create our environment to awaken and please our senses by intentionally using uplifting fragrance, mystical imagery, soothing music and gentle lighting. These ritual elements are often used in Tantra to foster a sacred and intimate container.
WHO: We welcome men of all ages, races, and sexual orientations who are willing to be naked and exchange sensual full-body touch including genitals. We will not be sharing any kind of penetrative sex. We will connect with each other by engaging in conscious touch that is intentional and real, moving beyond predetermined roles and habits, and learning ways to amplify pleasure.

See Event Photos page  and Video page to get a better idea what we’ll be doing.

WHEN/WHERE:

  • Vancouver: February 5-7, 2016
  • Friday, 7 to 10 PM
  • Saturday and Sunday, 10:30 to 7 PM
  • in a private home near Kingsway / Knight / King Edward transit lines
  • free parking on street

Your Guides and Hosts:

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]
Navid
Ziji [bio here]
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Registration:

  • Friday only: $25.
    • Are you on the fence: intrigued yet reluctant to jump ​into a whole weekend? Join us Friday evening the 5th for just $25 [prepaid] and get a sense of what it’s all about and who we are. Then if you wish you can register for the rest of the weekend for an additional $270.
    • Note: priority will be given to men who register for the entire program.
  • Early Registration = $250 for full weekend program
    • [if paid in full by Saturday, January 30th.]
  • Later Registration = $295.
  • Youth Discount: 50% for those under 35.
  • Space is limited to 11 participants; register right away!
  • We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, please contact us to discuss your situation.

Payments:

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to
    • Growing Healthier, 3792 Lanark Street, Vancouver BC V5N 3R7
    • [Please call or email us to indicate that you’ve mailed a cheque. We’ll reserve your place beginning then. Please include your email address and best phone number.]
The Fine Print: Refunds available up to 1 week before less $20 service charge. Pre-registration for at least Friday evening is required; if you wish, you may wait until then to decide and pay for subsequent sessions, at the Later Registration rate.

Info:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]

 

“Touch is the language of the heart.”

 Past years' events are chronicled below for reference.

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New Year’s Tantra Retreat in Vancouver

Want to get off to a really good start  in 2016?

Begin this Leap Year in loving brotherhood!

Join Sequoia and Ziji for a relaxing, nourishing New Year’s Retreat ! We’ll connect with ourselves and with one another to reflect on the passing year and to begin 2016 with conscious intentions deeply anchored in our bodies and hearts, through the power of sensuous erotic touch.

WHEN/WHERE:

  • Vancouver, Canada: December 31-Jan 2, 2016:  Thursday evening to Saturday evening
    • in a private home near Kingsway / Knight / King Edward transit lines
    • free parking on street

On Thursday evening (New Year’s Eve) we will get acquainted, reflect on the year that has passed, and then ring in the New Year while performing a powerful and sensual ritual of conscious touch.

Friday (New Year’s Day) we will meet later in the day to allow everyone to a full night’s sleep. We will include time to vision for 2016 and share  our aspirations and intentions for the new year. We will learn some of the basic principles of Tantra and explore new ways of sharing erotic touch with each other.

Saturday morning will focus on activities that will help to wake up the body and energize the spirit including yoga and dance.

Saturday afternoon and evening we will develop our erotic touch and intimacy skills to launch us powerfully into the new year.

Schedule:

  • Thursday Night 8 pm – 1 am
  • Friday 1 pm – 7 pm
  • Saturday 10:30 am – 7 pm

Pricing:

  • The workshop costs $295.
  • only a couple of spaces are still available!
  • We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, please contact us to discuss your situation.
  • Payment options are below.
  • All payments are now non-refundable, unless someone fills your vacancy.

Contact Sequoia and Ziji:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]
 WHO: We welcome men of all ages, races, and sexual orientations who are willing to be naked and exchange sensual full-body touch including genitals. We will not be sharing any kind of penetrative sex. We will connect with each other by engaging in conscious touch that is intentional and real, moving beyond predetermined roles and habits, and learning ways to amplify pleasure.

See Event Photos page to get a better idea what we’ll be doing.

Your Guides and Hosts:

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]
Navid
Ziji [bio here]
Payments:

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • PayPal: send payment to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to
    • Growing Healthier, 1755 Robson Street #442, Vancouver BC V6G 3B7  Please include your email address and best phone number.
  • Cash: if you are in downtown and want to drop off payment, call or email to make appointment.
 Past years' events are chronicled below for reference.

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Eros-Spirit Massage, November 13-15, 2015

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“In the garden of the senses 

lies a pathway to the spirit.”

WHAT: This weekend is based on the Tantric understanding that the body is the temple of the spirit. Tantra involves pleasurable practices that use the senses to take us out of our ordinary reality and into our body and into our heart, which is the place of connection and unity. You will be able to use these practices in your daily life to renew your connection with your own heart and soul, and enrich your intimacy with others. The weekend includes movement exercises, guidance in tantric massage, sharing circles, and much more.

  • You can discover real relaxation through Tantric movement, breathing and sensuous touch.
  • Become a better lover by learning to slow down and delight in the whole body.
  • Learn the sensuous delights of living more fully in your body, going “out of your mind,” to “come to your senses.”
  • Explore new levels of intimacy with yourself and other conscious men.
  •  Learn how to prolong pleasure with Tantric Erotic Massage —–learn how to connect the genitals, heart and soul.
  • See Event Photos page to get a better idea what we’ll be doing.

WHEN/WHERE: 

  • Vancouver: Nov 13-15, 2015
  • Friday, 7 to 10 PM
  • Saturday 10:30 to 7:30 PM
  • Sunday 10:30 to 6 PM
  • in a private home near Kingsway / Knight / King Edward transit lines
  • free parking on street

Your Guides and Hosts:

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]

Navid
Ziji [bio here]
SCHEDULE:

  • The mornings will consist of easy movement drawn from yoga, tai chi and dance, as well as guided imagery/meditation and toning/chant. These tools will help you manage stress, and prepare you to share healing touch.
  • The afternoons will encompass massage instruction which focus on nurturing and creating safety and trust.
  • Saturday afternoon, you will learn ways of using touch to care for people with whom you do not have an erotic relationship. The massage is done on tables, in shorts. You’ll learn how to use partial covering to keep the receiver warm and to make it easier for men to focus on all the other delicious pleasure zones beyond the pelvis.
  • The Sunday afternoon sessions are the most intimate: you will learn how to honour a man’s entire body in a sacred, caring way [clothing is optional, and your boundaries are totally respected]. The Sunday sessions require what you learn on both Friday evening and Saturday.

Early Registration Discount: [ends Nov 1]

  • $20 Introductory evening: Friday 7:30-10 PM: If you’re not sure this is for you, come have a sample. Priority will be given to men who register for the entire weekend.
  • $250 for full weekend program [if paid in full by Nov 1]
  • Space is limited to 10 participants; register right away!
  • We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, please contact us to discuss your situation.

Later Registration = $25 [Friday only]; $275 for full weekend.

The Fine Print: 
Refunds available up to 1 week before less $20 service charge. Pre-registration for at leastFriday evening is required; if you wish, you may wait until then to decide and pay for subsequent sessions, at the Later Registration rate.

Info:

  • 778-786-3677  [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]

Payments:

  • Interac – email payments to coach.sequoia @ gmail.com [omit spaces]
  • Visa/MC: We’ll email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to Growing Healthier, 3792 Lanark St, Vancouver BC V5N 3R7
  • Cash: if you are in East Van, and want to drop off payment, call or email to make appointment.

“Touch is the language of the heart.”

Summer Retreat on BC’s Beautiful Bowen Island

Bowen-Vancouver

Join
Sequoia and Ziji
for a relaxing, nourishing summer retreat to connect with ourselves, with one another, and with Nature at her most magnificent.

August 21-24

We found a beautiful, luxurious Guest House a 15-minute walk from the Snug Cove ferry landing [see website] where we can accommodate 9 to 12 men. Leave your car at home! Bowen is only 90 minutes from Vancouver by bus and ferry.

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We’ll have the Guest House from Friday evening through Monday morning. A breakfast buffet is included Sat/Sun/Mon. For lunches and dinners, we’ll enjoy many dining options in the charming Snug Cove Village. There is also a kitchenette with fridge and microwave, if you wish to bring some of your own food.

You can arrive as early as 3 on Friday. We’ll convene Friday evening after dinner, at 8, to get acquainted sharing TLC.

Saturday and Sunday mornings we’ll share nude yoga, meditation, and sensual touch.

Both afternoons will include optional guided massage in the Lodge OR free time to explore the hiking trails, kayaking, and lazing on the beach.

Saturday and Sunday evenings after dinner we’ll share rituals of Sacred Erotic Touch.

Monday our closing circle will be after breakfast. We’ll depart the Lodge by 11, and can leave luggage there to enjoy another leisurely day exploring Bowen’s delights. Ferries depart every hour.

Cost for 3 nights accommodations, 3 breakfasts,  and workshop:
  • Share twin room = $595
  • Private Double or Queen bed: add $100
  • Need to leave Sunday evening? deduct $100.
$100 deposit [FULLY refundable until July 1] will hold your desired space, balance due by July 1.
  • We intend to make our prices affordable for as many men as possible. If cost is keeping you from registering, please contact us to discuss your situation.
  • Payment options are below.
  • All payments become non-refundable on July 1, unless someone fills your vacancy.
  • Later payments after July 1 [if space available]: add $50.

Interested? Maybe? Not sure?

Please let us know immediately so we’ll know whether to make our own deposit to secure one of these dates [their only open weekends all summer!].

Please say:

  • Yes! I’m ready to put down my $100. See Payment Options below.
  • I prefer a [twin or private?] room.
  • I prefer to stay [2 or 3?] nights.
  • I am interested, and won’t be able to commit until [date].
  • These dates do not work for me; let me know if/when there is another one.
​Also, please tell us if you have specific requests about how we structure the retreat content [massage (instruction or self-directed), yoga, relationship communications skills, learning/practicing Tantra, other (please specify).]  We’d like to make this retreat what you want!

Contact Sequoia and Ziji:

  • 778-786-3677 or toll-free 1-877-786-3677 Ext 3 [24/7 info line] or
  • MenInTouch @ outlook.com [omit spaces]
 WHO: We welcome men of all ages, races, and sexual orientations who are willing to be naked and exchange sensual full-body touch including genitals. We will not be sharing any kind of penetrative sex. We will connect with each other by engaging in conscious touch that is intentional and real, moving beyond predetermined roles and habits, and learning ways to amplify pleasure.

See Event Photos page to get a better idea what we’ll be doing.

Your Guides and Hosts:

Sequoia [bio here]
Sequoia [bio here]
Navid
Ziji [bio here]

Payments:

  • Interac: You can email payment from your bank to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • PayPal: send payment to coach.sequoia [at] gmail.com
  • Visa/MC: We can email an invoice which you can pay securely on-line using any major credit card. Your registration will be complete when you receive a receipt for payment.
  • Cheque: payable to Growing Healthier, 442-1755 Robson St, Vancouver, BC V6G3B7 [Please call or email us to indicate that you’ve mailed a cheque. We’ll reserve your place beginning then. Please include your email address and best phone number.]
  • Cash: if you are in the West End, and want to drop off payment, call or email to make appointment.r
 Past years' events are chronicled below for reference.

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